How to Help Someone

Millions of people are affected by domestic violence each year.

Warning Signs an Individual May be in Trouble:

  • The individual frequently cancels plans at the last minute or seems afraid of making their partner angry.

  • Their partner ridicules her/him publicly or you sense there is volatility in the comments.

  • You notice changes in the individual's behavior or the children's behavior, when their partner is present.

  • The individuals often has bruises, injuries, or has frequent “accidents” for which she/he gives vague explanations.

  • The individual appears frightened or exhausted.

 

How You Can Help Someone Who is Being Abused

  • Listen to the individual. Believe what they tell you. Allow them to talk but do not force a discussion. 

  • Tell them the abuse is not their fault.  Remind them their partner chooses this behavior.

  • Place blame on their partner but do not speak negatively of their partner.

  • Allow the individual to grieve. At one time they trusted and loved this person.

  • Offer support, options, and resources that may help the individual.

  • Help them determine a safe place and plan should an incident happen or begin in the future.

  • When appropriate encourage the survivor to contact the local DV service provider or police department. 

  • Maintain communication with the individual and assure them you are available for support and safety.